Cat Kalen

Possessive Behavior
Wednesday, April 4th, 2012
Filed under This & That

When I was in grade 11 I dated a guy who was a year older than me. We spent the entire school year together and eventually the school year ended and summer came and went. When I started grade twelve, he went off to college. It was a nearby college so we weren’t forced to deal with a long distance relationship. Regardless, because he was no longer a ‘high school student’ living the easy life, the dynamics of our relationship quickly changed.

Unlike when we were both in high school—living a fairly stress free life where we’d go out every Friday and Saturday night, only to cram our homework in on Sunday—he was bogged down with homework every night and he worked part time on weekends as well.

So while he was working, I was still going out with friends. The group I hung out with consisted of both boys and girls, and suddenly my boyfriend became very jealous and very possessive when other boys were around me. It got to the point where he told me I was only allowed to go out one night on the weekend and I had to choose between Friday or Saturday. Hmmm, that didn’t go over so well with me. He expected me to sit home by myself because he had to work and wasn’t able to hang out with the rest of us.

While I still liked him, it occurred to me that we were at very different stages in our life. Since I wasn’t willing to stay home by myself, and he was busy with college and work and unable to spend any time with me, I knew the relationship had reached its end.

Naturally we broke up, but I never forgot the way he changed, and became so possessive of me when he felt threatened by other guys. I always wondered what brought that on. What was it that had him acting like this?

In Pride’s Run, Pride is faced with two very powerful alphas who are both in love with her. While they both might be alphas, their behaviour, however, and how they exert their dominance is completely different. Once alpha is very possessive, and wants to take charge and protect Pride. The other likes to stand back and allow Pride to make her own decisions. He’s there to catch her if she falls of course, but he wants her to realize how strong, determined and independent she really is.

Is one way right? Is one way flawed?

I know what you’re thinking and it’s exactly what my seventeen year old daughter adamantly said to me. That Pride should be allowed to make her own decisions.

But let’s look deeper. Let’s look at the way these alphas were raised. One spent his entire life in captivity. His knowledge has been limited and he reacts with instinct. (Isn’t it wolf instinct to protect the female?) The other boy lived a life of freedom, and reacts with knowledge rather than instinct.

Aren’t they both simply behaving the only way they know?

Will Pride come to realize this or will she fault one for his behaviour.

After all, isn’t love about accepting the other person the way they are, flaws and all?

2 comments to “Possessive Behavior”

  1. kat
    April 14th, 2012 at 5:36 pm · Link

    What happens if Prides chooses Logan and later he finds his “real” mate? The one that he can talk to telepathically the way Pride and Stone does?

    I love Logan, and was completely in his corner until you let us learn more about Stone and now I think it is an impossible choice for Pride.

    Stone is the way he is, and he behaved the way he did to protect her through instinct and necessity of the situation in which they lived. It almost seems like he is still being punished or maybe the right word is suffering, for his behavior in a situation he had no real control. And I think that in time, living in the same world as Logan he would “loosen his grip” with Pride, so to speak. Not entirely of course, because of what they have been through, but enough to live with maybe. Remember, he did accept her choice to be with Logan, no matter how much it hurt him, he still wanted what was best for her and he wanted her to be safe.

    Logan is a strong Alpha, and he has support from his pack and his family, and with hope for better things to come. He has shown Pride how to believe in herself and get in touch with her inner strength and grow. Just as his family did for him. If only everyone could have that kind of love and support.

    Stone has only known isolation, no family, friends or pack support. Nor has he had hope for anything to ever change beyond their daily existence. In a world of abuse and only the strongest survive. The only control he did have was in trying to protect his mate in the only way he could. Feed her by losing the contests and forced cruelty to keep her from being used as a pawn.

    You did such a great job with both characters. Their strengths and flaws are equal, in my opinion. I think they both shine in their own way. I am dying to read the third book to see what direction you have taken them. I am anxious to see who she chooses and why.

  2. Cat Kalen
    April 14th, 2012 at 6:35 pm · Link

    WOW, this is so insightful. I’m so happy you shared your thoughts with me. I have taken all these things into consideration as I write the third book and I really hope readers are pleased with how I handle the difficult choice Pride has to make, and how the two powerful alphas deal with it.